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Welcome everyone!

I was surprised to see that no one had yet begun a group for those kinksters who identify as polyamorous, and I figured it was time to start one - so welcome! I've been actively polyamorous for the last counts on fingers six and a half years, and I am ...

Comments: 12  |  Author: Jack Jose  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 8:43 p.m.

When your primary isn't kinky

I'm in the not-so-unusual situation of a primary who isn't into kink. I adore him and don't want to change him, so I'm not complaining - I love my vanilla and I love my vanilla husband! That said, if more than a few months go by without being able to ...

Comments: 24  |  Author: Jack Jose  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 10:01 p.m.

Tired of being monogamous....

So I just found myself finished with a long (by my standards, anyway) mongamous relationship. As life would have it, I found myself here (and I love this website!) and am really blown away by the diversity I've encountered. But to the point: a month or two ago someone I ...

Comments: 9  |  Author: Rolando Ridinger  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 3:13 p.m.

Poly bait and switch?

My longest BDSM relationship (9 years) began specifically intended to be a poly relationship. She asked for some time to get comfortable in our relationship first, which seemed like a reasonable (even preferable!) request to me. However, a disturbing trend developed over time. As we reached each goalposts for her ...

Comments: 10  |  Author: Luther Lykins  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 6:48 p.m.

Poly & D/s

Hey folks, I've been poly for ten years and kinky for four. My kink is mostly about D/s and I've noticed all sorts of interesting things about how poly can be a lot more challenging when there are power dynamics involved. For example, how does one manage poly with one's ...

Comments: 8  |  Author: Buster Blouin  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 1:54 a.m.

Wondering Where The Haystack Is

I've been on quite a few personals sites looking for a boy to add to my life and haven't found anything that seems to have a wide range of what I'm looking for to even start looking for that needle. I find on so many sites, most of the male ...

Comments: 16  |  Author: Victor Veal  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 4:27 a.m.

It looks bad; are we doomed?

EDIT: Thanks for the mental springboards. :) I'm thinking things over with some fresh perspectives now. Hopefully I can find a way to get everything into the right direction. If anyone wants the original long post, just mail me and I'll pas you a copy. For now, though, I won't ...

Comments: 5  |  Author: Vernon Vines  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 9:55 p.m.

things negative about poly

are people s insecurities, misinterpretations, jealousies and bitchiness. if you can get through all that and there is great communication available , compassion and patience amongst all involved including support , then you are halfway there

Comments: 7  |  Author: Gavin Goins  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 3:04 a.m.


Apparently I'm in the mood to stir up trouble ;) I'm surpised noone has posted this yet. So here it is! The one topic that trips up most anyone who's poly at some point or another.. JEALOUSY. How do you deal with it? enjoy! ~kim

Comments: 46  |  Author: Dennis Dale  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 2:56 a.m.

POLY: More than one; many; much

I wont write my views on this subject, as I have many lol and they are not always 100% one way, also Im sure my opinion wouldn't be appreciated by many... lol However I do find it very interesting and have had conversations with friends on this subject over the ...

Comments: 28  |  Author: Rick Rolfes  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 4:31 p.m.

Poly not Monogamous

I think it is sometimes difficult for people who are not strictly monogamous to gain a voice within a poly community that sets too many boundaries about what is and is not poly. What I mean is that I see on many sites that to be poly you must be ...

Comments: 18  |  Author: Laurence Labree  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 9:15 a.m.

Communication skills?

Do you feel that your communication skills have improved since your exposure to the kink or poly communities? Compared to when I was vanilla and monogamous my ability to honestly and fully share my desires with others has vastly increased. I still find it hard to be negative but I ...

Comments: 14  |  Author: Stephan Schmoll  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 6:54 p.m.

What's Love got to do with it?

I've been doing a lot of “soul searching” as of late to determine the origins, and future path, of my polygamous needs. Essentially, I wanted to try to asses my true motives behind my desires. I guess I'll give some quick history. To date, I can only think of ONE ...

Comments: 12  |  Author: Elbert Estill  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 1:38 a.m.

Good Poly Rules

I grabbed this off of sexgeek.wordpress.com, who has stated that, as long as she is given her due, that it can be reposted. I'm sure more then one person here can either related to it, add to it, or something. I get the feeling that a good discussion can come ...

Comments: 50  |  Author: Jefferson Jesse  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 5:14 a.m.

Question for nonprimary submissives

Greetings all i am the primary slave in our household. my Master's submissive has been in the family for almost a year. i am looking for suggestions to mark this anniversary. i am extremely happy to have her in our family. This small gift will be from me alone. Master ...

Comments: 4  |  Author: Bernardo Bealer  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 3:34 a.m.

Differing Standards?

i am in a poly relationship with my Master, his gf/life-partner/submissive and then me, the slave. i'm providing definitions of sub and slave to make the matter a little clearer, but please bear in mind that these definitions are how our household runs, everyone has different elasticity in definitions. Submissive: ...

Comments: 3  |  Author: Daren Dohrmann  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 9:03 a.m.

Poly + Kink + Gay = Can it really work?

Personally I belive it can, but personal experience hasn't shown any proof so far. Don't know if its just the circles i'm part of, the guys i date, or some personal behaviour that does it, but I can't seem to find anyone or anything that works. I see others having ...

Comments: 10  |  Author: Otha Ostler  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 5:46 p.m.

What do you mean I am Poly? (my intro)

Hello all. LOL, after many years of considering my life goal of a triad to be monogamous; I have finally admitted to myself that yes - I am poly. It is weird to me; as I think of a closed 3 way triangle relationship as non-poly, but ok, fine, I ...

Comments: 6  |  Author: Daron Dowe  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 12:46 p.m.

Looking for venues

Hello A/all. The organizer of the kitchener-poly group has asked me to organize the next poly social since life is biting him really hard right now so he doesn't have the time or energy to do so. i'm looking for a venue in Kitchener which has at least a semi-private ...

Comments: 1  |  Author: Kermit Knaus  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 1:17 p.m.

Poly + Casual ?

So, as I understand it, two particular terms for nonmonogamous relationship types usually get defined something like this: Polyamorous: A person who is emotionally capable and with the relationship skills to maintain multiple loving relationships, which may or may not include sex. Open (as in "in an Open Relationship"): A ...

Comments: 23  |  Author: Lupe Licata  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 4:02 p.m.

Your ideal poly situation?

If you could wave a magic wand and have exactly the sort of relationships you want, what would you pick? I think I would pick a group marriage relationship. So two couples basically who each have a primary partner but who all love each other and play together and live ...

Comments: 27  |  Author: Kyle Kinney  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 10:20 p.m.


Do folks think it is possible for someone to be the "slave" in a triad, and be a slave for a different Dom? The triad would be the more "casual" relationship, and the other being the more "serious"... What are folks thoughts, outsk8

Comments: 8  |  Author: Elias Eyre  |  Created: June 17, 2017, 1:01 a.m.

Beyond The Ethical Slut

Poly book information, just FYI if anyone needs resources: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/ lots of books on poly coming out and i particularly want to get my hands on "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships" by Tristan Taormino. i would also recommend her site http://www.openingup.net/ ~kim

Comments: 6  |  Author: Dennis Dale  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 7:53 p.m.

Next Poly Social

Yes, those of you who are fairly local. i DID check with the most comprehensive calendar i could find--EhBC calendar and it will only be affecting one event--The Phoenix Niagara event. Hello everyone. I'm cross posting this to several groups so please feel free to post far and wide if ...

Comments: 1  |  Author: Kermit Knaus  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 12:54 p.m.

It's Complicated

I really like that this site gives that option on the profiles. Saves so much trouble.

Comments: 11  |  Author: Brent Broman  |  Created: June 18, 2017, 8:06 p.m.
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